Tuesday, May 17, 2016

The Best Relationship



Relationship (noun) : the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected

 I am sitting down to write this post with Merlot in hand and my mind is swirling with 1,000 different ways to write this. Maybe it's the Merlot or my racing mind but I apologize if you get lost while reading this post. For weeks I have been sitting on this blog post thinking about the right way to talk about "the best relationship".  The thing is I don't want to come off as some sort of psych-ie weirdo or too in depth with my inner being. But the thing is over the years I have become in tune with my 'inner being' and learned the best relationship I can have is the one I have with myself.

I used to have this fear of being alone (a.k.a. mono-phobia). After college I moved to a new city and lived alone for the first time. I was 22 and I admit it was a tad bit scary. There were some quiet nights that I loathed and craved for some human interaction. It is no secret that I am a social being, so not having roommates or family around to just hang out with kinda stunk. For the first time in my life I was all alone and learning more about myself than I ever knew.

Although with time I found myself being perfectly okay alone and oddly enjoying it. Maybe it was forced upon me by living alone or maybe it was age. While I love my friends, family, and husband, I learned the best relationship I can have is with myself. I learned how to be okay and totally entertained even when I am all alone. I learned how create my own happiness and find my hobbies/passions. No, this is not some sort of feminist independence statement but an inner zen that I have found over the years. I am okay to spend a whole Saturday (day and night) binge-ing on Netflix or go eat lunch all by myself at the restaurant right down the road. I have learned to spend time doing what makes me happy and if I am a little selfish along the way, that's okay.

I appreciate my alone time and doing things just for me. I love being able to plop down with a glass of wine, turn on Real Housewives, write a blog post or two, and just hang. Even on crazy days I love nothing more than going to lunch by myself and catching up on Instagram while munching down on my Moe's burrito.  Don't let me fool you in saying that I could be a hermit but I have learned that building a strong relationship with myself is the best thing I can do for me. That is why I say the best relationship is the one I have with myself, because when my inner being is happy it radiates and that is when I am my best self.

"The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself." - Dr. Steve Maraboli


1 comment :

  1. Love this post! I completely agree with you. As they say, you can't help other people until you help yourself. Focusing on the relationship with yourself allows for the best possible you to shine :) Thanks for sharing!

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